Terry Lee Martin

A benefit of being the eldest is that I have developed many qualities that I have made me a mature individual. through experience, I have learned to be responsible, dependable, and to be earnest as well. For example, my parents would go out on weekends and leave my brothers in my care. They believe that I can take care of my brothers at home. By putting their trust in me, my parents have taught me to take full responsibility.

Besides my parents, my brothers also depend on me. They rely on me to help them with their school as well as with their problems in dealing with growing up. I have also learned to be earnest. Since I’m a role model for my brothers, i strive for the best in whatever i do. That is, i have to do well in school, never give up on any task given to me, no matter how difficult it may be. At first, I resented being the firstborn, but as i have become more mature, I have realized that it has really strengthened my moral fiber, my character.

There I stood in the parking lot of the Music Museum. I just hoped that I could get some autographs. I had my autograph autograph book in one hand and a ballpen in the other. Then suddenly a can pulled up and parked in the area reserved for the performers. Everyone looked toward the van. All of a sudden one on the leading vocalist of the band got out. He is one of my favorite vocalists. I thought over to him with my heart beating as fast as i could. I asked,” Would you sign this for me?” as I held out the autograph book, but I got him. I ran over to Mom and Dad to show it to them. They were really happy for me.

A couple of minutes later, one more vocalist of other band leader drove up in a blue Jaguar. I ran over to him with my autograph book and he signed it. Now that I look back on this experience, I think I was pretty lucky. I ended up with autographs from the two outstanding vocalists of the country. I guess you could say that on that day, I was walking on clouds.

When I was on my twenties, I wanted a man that is both well establish in his career and have different investments.  When I reached thirty, I wanted a man that   has a stable job and a nice home. When I celebrated my fortieth birthday, I wished for a man that has a home and a job. When I reached fifty, I just want any man. When I blew my candles in my sixtieth birthday, I just want anyone that looks like a man.
Funny but true, we tend to have high expectations for our partners. We tend to set high standards and forget that a relationship cannot be just base on security , we need to work for it.

Whenever I see young couples, I remember the story of my cousin. When she graduated form high school, she eloped with the most handsome guy in her school. He was the school heartthrob and every girls in the school have been dreaming of him. Well it was true, his looks and built can fit in a movie screen.  But since they are both  high school graduates, they can only have part time jobs and manual jobs. Soon she got pregnant and their situation worsen.  He needed to work several jobs just to have something they can eat on the table. His great looks quickly vanished amidst the difficulty they were experiencing. He now looked haggard and dirty. Gone were the trace of him being the prettiest man in school. He looks bad and his family is hungry.